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Self-Acceptance

Beginning:


Self-Acceptance arguably of the strongest building blocks you need in a journey to self-love. It does take time to build this foundation but with slow growth the pay-off will be even sweeter.

One minor change in life that can change is, removing the self-depreciating thoughts from your day-to-day life. You will find the change of your attitude can be surprising. Simply removing the “I’m so fat.” “My teeth are crooked.” “I hate cellulite.” Rather change them to something more neutral – “This is my body.” “These teeth are used for eating.” “Everyone has cellulite, its natural.” Simple changes brings out a sense of understanding to your very existence. That’s not to say you shouldn’t take yourself so seriously that everything offends you. This is just a starter example of how to build a foundation for Self-Acceptance. Like my spirituality post its all about finding a balance. A lot of what self-acceptance actually is; is affirmation work. Reassuring yourself that you are alive and building yourself to a new height. It’s being able to look at the bigger picture and understand that it’s okay to be who you are, learning to recognise that you are a small part in a wider universe. Self-acceptance; I believe is forgotten in the path to self-love, I think this is because there is no “Quick Fix” solution to this part of the journey. People are, by nature quite impatient - and I find a lot of social media’s attitude is to scream “Self-love” and not actually mean it. All houses need a foundation, if you do not have a solid foundation then the house will eventually crumble.


Middle:


Self-Acceptance for me was going to a gym and getting fit. At one point, I became so fit that it was unhealthy. Now I am happy with my body as a healthy weight, neither under-weight or overweight. Just perfect and I am content with that, although there are days where I look in the mirror and dis-like what I see. Personally, for me, spirituality really helped grounding me when I spiral into negative thoughts. Be patient with yourself, small self-corrections in a healthy way are positive steps in the right direction. It’s retraining your brain to have a more neutral view on your inner-being before moving onto bigger projects (like self-love)Really the path to Self-acceptance can be pathed, either with or without following a particular belief like spirituality or any other organised religion, I just feel like self-love/self-acceptance it goes hand in hand with one another.

Re-learning yourself is a key part to building Self-Acceptance as well. Learning the curves of your body, the look of your skin during each season, what is normal and what is not. Listen to your body, it tells you more than you are aware. If you want a particular food group – eat it (within moderation) If you feel like your knee is aching for a reason, figure out why it is. (I had a poor knee for a while and never understood why… Turned out I was sitting weirdly, even though it was comfortable). I hate it when influencers or other “Fitness Gurus” Talk about being strict with yourself and not doing a specific thing to “Be happy”. Fuck that. Listen to your needs, listen to your body and learn to be aware of your environment, its changes and routines. Social-Media plays a big part in this epidemic of self-hatred and its shameful such a positive creation created such a divide.

Re-building is probably the final part of Self-Acceptance. Referring back to my previous paragraphs, a house without a foundation is going to collapse, no matter how strong you make those walls. As my Sensei says, “You must learn the fundamentals before you move forward. This goes for all walks of life.” He is damn right. Each time a degrading thought is cut down, or each time the thought of “I am here and I exist” that is another part of the foundation being laid down. There is never enough foundation work that can be done. I sure as hell know I have a lot more to go. I hope one day I will never be insecure again – Although I understand I am only human and at the end of the day, it is okay to be insecure every now and then… Keeps you from being an arrogant prick! Re-build the foundation and start forming boundaries. The word “No” Is magical. Such simple things to say no to – no sugar in your tea, no to brussel sprouts in your Sunday roast – no I don’t want to wear that colour. I don’t care if people think I’m a dick for saying no. If I don’t want to – it’s a no. Doing this is a huge step into building an even stronger foundation.


Final:


There is so much more to say about this topic, a lot of working on yourself is trial and error, learning what works for you and what doesn’t. Don’t push something that is not working! Don’t force yourself to do something that is not for you! Self-Acceptance is a long journey and self-love grows alongside it. This vital step is a huge part in creating inner happiness and I don’t feel this can be expressed enough. Be you, fuck everyone else who tells you otherwise. As long as you aren’t hurting anyone else… who cares! Be the change you want to see. You attract what you project, the journey starts now and it starts with you.

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